SisterBridget
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Dear beautiful clients,
Are you and your HD* fighting a lot? If you are doing spellwork or have already done your spellwork, you already know that fighting is counterproductive to your spells! However, sometimes things happen and you seem to just keep getting into fights despite your knowledge that you shouldn't.
First, don't beat yourself up over it. You cannot unring the bell so there is no point in being upset over what has happened in the past. Beating yourself up over it won't help. In fact, doing that is just putting more negative energy into it.
Second, make a plan for next time. If you have been fighting with your HD, chances are it is going to happen again. This time, though, have a plan. Decide what you will say, do, think, feel when you are in the situation of a fight again. Play the scenario out in your head multiple times: "I will not engage in fighting. I will walk away. I will state to him/her that I don't want to fight and that I will not fight with them anymore. I will state to him/her that we are not resolving anything this way, we need to sit down and talk things out, not in anger. I will take deep breaths and know that it is always my choice to engage in fighting or not. I will take responsibility for my role in the fighting and calm myself down."
Third, use something to help you focus yourself on the idea that you can and will avoid fighting - things like white male or female candle magick kits ( http://www.spellmaker.com/cleanseyou.htm) can help you to shed off negativity from previous fights. You can also use them for helping you with the step above - planning what is going to happen. Burn the white candle or candles (you could very easily use one for you and one for your HD) and use the scenario above to plan to act responsibly next time the opportunity for a fight comes up. If you have a really terrible habit of fighting all the time and you feel like it is truly an unhealthy habit (vs. just something that happens now and again) then I suggest that Cosmic Voodoo Healing Egg (http://www.spellmaker.com/lovegg.htm) used to heal the habit of fighting.
Fourth, know that everyone is going to get into a disagreement now and again. It is human nature. But by preparing yourself and having a plan to prevent future fights, you will be way ahead of the game!
*HD=Heart's Desire - the person you are working on with love spell work
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Sister Bridget Corfield
Confidential Caseworker for Spellmaker.com
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